I am increasingly convinced that self-love rightly understood can protect us from authoritarianism and domination. Feeling Nervous About Self-Love Most of us grow up feeling nervous about self-love, and this is understandable. We learn growing up that selfishness is wrong (and certainly this is true), and that we should think of others instead of ourselves … Continue reading Fierce Love: Fortifying Ourselves against Authoritarianism and Domination
When people want to dominate, control, and silence women, they shame their bodies. This is often effective. Body shame shuts down women. Why does this happen? Malignant Messages Women receive messages all the time that their worth as a person is directly tied to arbitrary standards of beauty that someone else decides for them. Women … Continue reading On President Trump, Negging, and Women’s Bodies and Blood: It is Time to Subvert Shame
There is Something Powerful About Love The Beatles wrote "All You Need is Love." St. Augustine wrote "Love God and do whatever you please." Jesus said, in Matthew 22:37 that the two greatest commands are “to love the Lord with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself.” Zen Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hanh … Continue reading Is Love Enough?
Qualifications and Clarifications First, I am highly qualified to write this post because I am a recovering idiot (I will define what I mean by idiot very shortly), and I still lapse back into it occasionally. That is the most important thing to state. The second important thing to state is that idiocy is not … Continue reading Peaceful Political Discussions: How Not To Be an Idiot in Five Easy Steps
The phrase politically correct has been around for some time, but it became a dominant feature of cultural discourse this last election cycle. Donald Trump made political correctness or rather ‘anti-political correctness’ the centerpiece of his political campaign. He portrayed himself as a maverick, bucking political jargon and certain political agendas. In one of the … Continue reading Why Everyone is Politically Correct and No One is Politically Correct: Why the Phrase *Politically Correct* is Unhelpful and Misleading
Profound suffering and darkness mark the human condition. Given that, sometimes it seems like having a positive outlook is delusional, naïve, or even irresponsible. I have come to believe, however, that having a positive outlook is one of the most helpful things in life. Adopting such an outlook is not naïve or delusional, and it … Continue reading How To Cultivate a More Positive Outlook on Life: 10 Things To Remember When You Feel Hopeless
For most of my life, I have had the idea that somehow kindness makes the world a better place, and I have tried to practice kindness. It can really be hard to be kind at times. Sometimes people think you are naïve if you are kind. Sometimes people misunderstand your kindness as stupidity. Sometimes people … Continue reading Does Kindness Even Matter? What I learned about Kindness Today