How Embracing Vulnerability Changed My Life (And Why I am Still Working on It)

Needing to Be Right Once upon a time it was incredibly important for me to be right. About everything. I have a vivid memory of arguing with my little brother when I was about ten years old. I do not remember exactly what we were arguing about, but I do remember being furious with him. … Continue reading How Embracing Vulnerability Changed My Life (And Why I am Still Working on It)

Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross and Your Confidence Plummets Into a Deep, Dark Well

Really Bad Days There are days when we feel ugly, gross, worthless, and our confidence plummets into a very dark, deep well. It is no wonder that we struggle with these feelings. We live in a media-saturated society, in which we are surrounded by perfectly fit, airbrushed images all the time. This can teach us … Continue reading Five Things You Can Do When You Feel Ugly and Gross and Your Confidence Plummets Into a Deep, Dark Well

Five Reasons You Don’t Have to Worry About What People Think

We worry a lot about what people think of us. We worry what they think about our fashion choices, our looks, the things we say, our level of success, and our particular interests or hobbies. Even the philosopher Heidegger speaks of The They[1]—the amorphous, ambiguous atmosphere of other people’s judgments. We end up living in … Continue reading Five Reasons You Don’t Have to Worry About What People Think

A Cure for Our Personal and Political Loathing: A New Outlook

We Need a New Outlook In my last blog post, I argued that many people in the United States suffer with personal and political loathing and that this loathing can generate further problems of shame, unhappiness, feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness, personal and interpersonal violence, inequality, and increasingly levels of political hopelessness. While these problems … Continue reading A Cure for Our Personal and Political Loathing: A New Outlook

Overcoming Our Political and Personal Self-Loathing: We Need a New Outlook

Political Unrest I love many things about living in the United States; I am also greatly concerned about my country. We live in a time of significant personal and political turmoil, and there are many signs that something is amiss in our nation. The United States ranks 94th on the 2016 Global Peace Index Report, … Continue reading Overcoming Our Political and Personal Self-Loathing: We Need a New Outlook

Fear and Self-Loathing: Leaving Our Self-Made Prisons

I think many of us construct our own personal prisons of suffering. This is nothing to be ashamed of because there are often very good reasons that we build these prisons. They often serve some important purpose, at least initially. We often do not realize, however, that we have built these prisons ourselves and that … Continue reading Fear and Self-Loathing: Leaving Our Self-Made Prisons