That Time I Asked the Universe for a Hammock, and It Magically Showed Up at My Door

Asking for things, stating my needs, being clear about what I want: these are things that make me  nervous. In fact, historically, I have often been pretty bad altogether about being honest about what I want or need. When I think about why this is so, I realize it is because I somehow picked up … Continue reading That Time I Asked the Universe for a Hammock, and It Magically Showed Up at My Door

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Step One: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

The first step: One day I realized that I had no idea how to love myself and that I was stuck in a pattern of self-hate and self-loathing. The other day I wrote about a path of seven steps (more or less) for overcoming self-hate. I thought I would elaborate on them in a series … Continue reading Step One: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

Seven Steps to Love: Recovering from Self-Hate

On my blog at various points, I have written about how for many years, I unconsciously struggled to love and accept myself and as a result, I often got stuck in patterns of self-loathing and self-hate. (You can read more about this here, here, here, and here.) When I realized that I struggled with this … Continue reading Seven Steps to Love: Recovering from Self-Hate

The Great Love Story: Healing Shame by Exchanging the Do Enough Myth for a New Story

The Do Enough Myth is one of the most common causes of shame in our lives, and this is not at all surprising when we understand what The Do Enough Myth teaches. Here are the key ideas of this myth: You are not born lovable, valuable, and worthy. You must prove your worth in order … Continue reading The Great Love Story: Healing Shame by Exchanging the Do Enough Myth for a New Story

What Peregrina Forgot: A Fairy Tale

Once upon a time, there was a girl named Peregrina. Peregrina was from a different planet—a planet called Phosimare­­—only she did not realize this. When she was too young to remember, Peregrina fell to another planet, the Planet Oge. She did not remember this happening, and Peregrina grew up thinking she was from the planet … Continue reading What Peregrina Forgot: A Fairy Tale

The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

I have been thinking about shame lately. Shame is the belief, with an accompanying painful feeling, that we are not good enough or that we are deeply flawed, gross, or radically imperfect. Shame and Anxiety I believe many of us struggle with feelings of shame and unworthiness on a regular basis. These feelings might manifest … Continue reading The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

Three Things Love is Stronger Than and Why It is Stronger: Overcoming Our Darkness

I believe that Love is stronger than anything, although I will admit that sometimes I have a hard time remembering this--especially when things are very difficult in the world. Love is the power that allows us to recognize and honor the light in everyone and to cultivate it in ourselves and others. The "light in … Continue reading Three Things Love is Stronger Than and Why It is Stronger: Overcoming Our Darkness