Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #4

Sticking Up for Our Friends Imagine a very dear friend that you love a great deal. Now imagine that someone is picking on your friend, being cruel to her, bullying her, calling her names. Imagine how indignant you would feel at this bully’s treatment of your friend. I bet you would stand up for your … Continue reading Sticking Up for Ourselves and Resisting Bullies and Boundary Crashers: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #4

Why Self-Love is Not Selfishness and Narcissism: On Becoming a Good Friend to Others by Being a Good Friend to Ourselves

Self-Love Makes Us Uncomfortable People often feel very uncomfortable with the idea of loving themselves. I know that for years I did. Perhaps this is because in the past we have encountered people who seemed to love themselves more than anyone else, and this led them to act in a narcissistic and selfish manner to those … Continue reading Why Self-Love is Not Selfishness and Narcissism: On Becoming a Good Friend to Others by Being a Good Friend to Ourselves

Becoming Your Own Best Friend: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #3

In my last two posts, I discussed how to cultivate self-love by thinking of yourself as a small child and by speaking to yourself as you would a small child or a friend.   In this post, I will discuss how you can cultivate self-love by making a self-love pledge. #3. Take a Self-Love Pledge … Continue reading Becoming Your Own Best Friend: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #3

Using Loving Affirmations to Cultivate Confidence: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #2

In my first post, I discussed the first way we can cultivate self-love, which is to think of ourselves as a little baby.  Just like babies need love, encouragement, care, and compassion to flourish, we also need these things. Think of yourself like a little child who needs love and nurturing to flourish. This leads … Continue reading Using Loving Affirmations to Cultivate Confidence: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #2

Adopting a Loving View of Yourself: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #1

Loving Ourselves, Hating Ourselves How well do you like yourself? Which of the following statements best represents your relationship with yourself? I absolutely love myself. I’m okay, but I really get on my nerves sometimes. I have more things I dislike about myself than I love about myself. I hate myself. If you are like … Continue reading Adopting a Loving View of Yourself: How to Cultivate Self-Love, Part #1

Be Willing: The Day a Total Stranger Gave me Earrings in the Airport

I recently had an adventure in the airport, and it all started because of a book. One day I was reading, and I read the phrase, “Be willing to receive good things.” Two things happened. First, I got very uncomfortable because historically, I have not been good at receiving things from people—gifts, compliments, help, you … Continue reading Be Willing: The Day a Total Stranger Gave me Earrings in the Airport

Mindfulness Meditation for Peace and Relaxation

I sometimes struggle with anxiety, and when I do, I often find that thinking certain loving thoughts and looking at colors relaxes me. So, I created this picture flow to share some of the ideas that help me the most. Maybe if you are feeling anxious, it will help you, too. There is a safe … Continue reading Mindfulness Meditation for Peace and Relaxation