I believe apologies can free us from our self-made prisons or lock us up in new ones. Being able to apologize when we have done something wrong is extremely important. When we hurt someone and apologize, it is like a powerful reset button. It creates space for us to recognize that we are acting badly, … Continue reading When We Apologize Too Much
Self-hate is a common feeling that can result from living in a confusing world filled with suffering and contradictions. It can also result from messages which other people or systems or institutions send us that make us feel bad for being human or from feelings we suffer when people mistreat, bully, or abuse us. If you would … Continue reading Step Four: Dealing With the Dark, Diseased, and Wounded Parts of Us (Recovering from Self-Hate)
First of all, I am not going to tell you in this post what you should believe. You probably wouldn't listen to me anyhow (and good for you), but even if you would listen to me, it is not my place to tell you what to believe. What I want to do instead is to … Continue reading Is Your Doctrine Making You Sick?
I hate to admit it, but I have been pretty bad about going to the doctor in the past. In my defense, I have had some really unpleasant doctor visits over the years and have developed serious doctor anxiety because of it. Sometimes my past doctor visits were bad because of something very specific--like the … Continue reading Today I Overcame My Fear of Going to the Doctor
Have you ever felt like someone was trying reduce you, squash you, objectify you by turning you into a number or rating you on some arbitrary scale? I have before. I bet you have, too. You are NOT a number. Here is a poem for you. "You are Not" You are not the number Of … Continue reading You are Not a Number
This summer, my little nephew gave me some excellent advice. I was at the park with him, and he was fascinated with a fireman's pole that was connected to the park jungle gym. I could tell he really wanted to slide down the pole, but he was afraid. So I spent some time with him, … Continue reading Keep It Simple
Step 2: I realized that this is not how life was meant to be—that I was meant to live a life of Love and not hate and loathing. (See the overall steps here and step one here). Self-hate is a common phenomenon in our lives--so much so that we often do not even realize that … Continue reading Step Two: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)