Keep It Simple

This summer, my little nephew gave me some excellent advice. I was at the park with him, and he was fascinated with a fireman's pole that was connected to the park jungle gym. I could tell he really wanted to slide down the pole, but he was afraid. So I spent some time with him, … Continue reading Keep It Simple

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Step Two: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

Step 2: I realized that this is not how life was meant to be—that I was meant to live a life of Love and not hate and loathing. (See the overall steps here and step one here). Self-hate is a common phenomenon in our lives--so much so that we often do not even realize that … Continue reading Step Two: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

Step One: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

The first step: One day I realized that I had no idea how to love myself and that I was stuck in a pattern of self-hate and self-loathing. The other day I wrote about a path of seven steps (more or less) for overcoming self-hate. I thought I would elaborate on them in a series … Continue reading Step One: Seven Steps to Love (Letting Go of Self-Hate)

Seven Steps to Love: Recovering from Self-Hate

On my blog at various points, I have written about how for many years, I unconsciously struggled to love and accept myself and as a result, I often got stuck in patterns of self-loathing and self-hate. (You can read more about this here, here, here, and here.) When I realized that I struggled with this … Continue reading Seven Steps to Love: Recovering from Self-Hate

What Peregrina Forgot: A Fairy Tale

Once upon a time, there was a girl named Peregrina. Peregrina was from a different planet—a planet called Phosimare­­—only she did not realize this. When she was too young to remember, Peregrina fell to another planet, the Planet Oge. She did not remember this happening, and Peregrina grew up thinking she was from the planet … Continue reading What Peregrina Forgot: A Fairy Tale

The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

I have been thinking about shame lately. Shame is the belief, with an accompanying painful feeling, that we are not good enough or that we are deeply flawed, gross, or radically imperfect. Shame and Anxiety I believe many of us struggle with feelings of shame and unworthiness on a regular basis. These feelings might manifest … Continue reading The Do Enough Myth, Our Anxiety, and Healing Our Feelings of Shame and Unworthiness

That Time I Bombed Zumba Class (and Other Adventures in Awkwardness): Letting Go of the Need to Look Perfect and In Control

I often dread looking stupid in front of other people. I think most of us do. Early in life, I somehow picked up the message that it was really important to look smooth, polished, pretty, and in control at all times. I internalized the message that if I presented myself this way, people would admire … Continue reading That Time I Bombed Zumba Class (and Other Adventures in Awkwardness): Letting Go of the Need to Look Perfect and In Control