We Can Change

“People never change.” I overheard a woman say this in a coffee shop a few years ago. I could sympathize with her on this. I thought of some of the problems I had dealt with in my own life or problems I knew other people dealt with. Human beings can get really stuck in their … Continue reading We Can Change

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Month Three of Beautiful Breathing: On Nature, Being a Highly Sensitive Person, and the Fourteen Mile Walk

I ran away from school in fourth grade. I blame it on those damn recorders in music class. I really liked school, and I really liked my fourth grade teacher Mrs. Nagel, so it wasn’t their fault. I even liked music and music class. It’s just that one week, we started playing recorders in music … Continue reading Month Three of Beautiful Breathing: On Nature, Being a Highly Sensitive Person, and the Fourteen Mile Walk

Girl. The Interrogation Mark.

Little girls are exclamation marks: Me! Trees! Legs! Family! Sunlight! Stomach! Ice cream! Happy! Me! Until they learn..."Beautiful", "ugly", "thin", "fat", And then girls become question marks... Beautiful enough? Thin enough? Sexy enough? Enough? Enough? Enough? The question becomes a hunger, a feAR, a TERROR of "no", And soon we stop finishing our own sentences … Continue reading Girl. The Interrogation Mark.

Why Labeling and Dismissing People as “Liberal” or “Conservative” is Unreasonable, as Well as Morally and Politically Unwise (and an Alternative)

Our political discourse is going through a bit of a rough patch, to state the case mildly. It is increasingly difficult for people on different ends of the political spectrum to have a civil conversation in our country, and we see clear examples of this every day in the news, on social media, and in … Continue reading Why Labeling and Dismissing People as “Liberal” or “Conservative” is Unreasonable, as Well as Morally and Politically Unwise (and an Alternative)

Losing Ourselves, Finding Ourselves, and the Possibility of Loving Ourselves Unconditionally: Step Seven—Seven Steps to Love

To be loved and to be worthy of love is one of our deepest desires. It is such a deep desire that we spend a great deal of time trying to earn love or be worthy of  it. There are a lot of reasons for this, but here are a few: We believe if we … Continue reading Losing Ourselves, Finding Ourselves, and the Possibility of Loving Ourselves Unconditionally: Step Seven—Seven Steps to Love

Letting Go of Perfectionism, Punishment, and Control: Step Six—Seven Steps to Love

Step Six: I asked Love to show me how to let go of the need to be perfect, to punish, and to be in control.[1] Undermining the Self I believe that many of us unconsciously struggle with patterns of self-hate. This is not too surprising when we realize that there are a lot of messages … Continue reading Letting Go of Perfectionism, Punishment, and Control: Step Six—Seven Steps to Love

Prayer: When We Believe, When We Doubt, and When We Don’t Believe

I have long been fascinated by prayer. One reason for this, of course, is because prayer has been an important part of my life in one form or another since I was young. But I am also interested in prayer for another reason. Over the years at various times, I have heard stories of people … Continue reading Prayer: When We Believe, When We Doubt, and When We Don’t Believe